A few weeks ago, I finally started the process of changing my name. They do not make it easy and I just wasn’t up for the challenge right after I got married. Anyway – seeing as I booked 2 flights with the new name, I knew I needed to start the process sooner rather than later.
If you would have asked me 10 years ago, I would have told you I would never change my name. I liked my name. I mean I was blessed and born with a strong Italian name. You really couldn’t ask for a better one. Even when I met Tom and I was pretty convinced we would be together for a while, I still thought I would keep my name. So many other women do it, I always admired when I met someone that didn’t have the same name as her husband. Baller move.
Now, after getting married, I realized why so many don’t change their name right away. It’s a huge pain in the ass. They do not make it easy for you. Also, I realized I wanted kids eventually and I would prefer to have the same last name as them.
Want to hear something hilarious? You have to pay for a certified copy of your own marriage license. That’s after you have to pay to even apply to get a marriage license. Super fun. So you wait about 2 weeks for that to come in. Tip: We sent ours in on 11/12 to get filed and it was filed 11/13. So they got it quick. Just order a copy the week after you get married and then you can begin the process faster than I did.
Social Security Office
I went in the middle of the week at 2pm, thinking I would avoid the lunch rush. No, I waited 2 hours. There were so many people there. A very depressing room to be in because some were clearly not citizens and hoping to rectify that in this cramped office. When it was finally my turn they took a copy of my marriage license and my current social security card and the man looked at me and goes “Are you sure you want to do this?”. After 2 hours, I WAS POSITIVE. He stamped a couple things and then gave me a letter with my new name on it. A government shutdown and 2 weeks later, I had my new card!
Kill me. I went to the express office that is downtown and usually has no line. Well apparently everyone had to get their license renewed. I waited for another 2 hours. When I got to the front, the cashier looked at my old license, punched a hole in it and had me take another picture. It also didn’t occur to me to practice signing my name and I spelled it wrong the first time. The cashier looked confused and told me to sign it again.
Changing your Bank
This was pretty funny. They made me come into a Chase office to do this. I get there and had to wait for a rep to be available. A very tall and lanky man came out to greet me. Sweaty hands and a brownish red stain on his tie. He asked me the reason for the name change and I gave him all my documents (i.e. marriage license, new driver’s license). He then had to call someone and to make changes on all my credit cards associated with the account. I realized this is a person he speaks with a lot because he was flirting with her. “Heyyyyyy long time no talk haha”. What the heck was going on? They are flirting while discussing my personal bank information? I started envisioning Tom and I double dating with them and being invited to their wedding all because he had to spell my new last name 3 times over the phone with her. Anyway, he successfully changed my information.
Changing all my other accounts
This will take a while. Mainly because you just don’t realize how much shit your name is associated with. Accounts, websites etc. And the verification necessary for all of them. I mean, it’s crazy. I need to next update my passport next which requires me to take another picture and send in for a renewal. I will try to do that this weekend when I’m not sick. I got majorly sick this weekend and looked like the crypt keeper from Tales from the Crypt. It was not adorable.
I’m glad I changed my name. I was really excited to see it written out when I got my social security card back. I loved my old last name too but there is something very exciting about your new one. This represents a great new chapter in my life with Tom and I’m honored to take his name. I don’t feel like I gave up a part of myself. If anything, I feel a lot cooler.